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2%YvY 自从QQ邮箱开通了 “漂流瓶” 的服务后, 每天我都收到很多匿名的邮件. 这些邮件本来并不是写给我的, 只是发邮件的人随意向所有QQ用户发的一封邮件, 而这封邮件却随机被投到了我的邮箱. 一般来讲, 对于这些邮件, 我一般都只是一笑置之, 不予以回复. 但是今天有一封邮件吸引了我的注意力. 这封邮件只有一句话 : 上天让我爱上了你, 却无法让你爱上我. 看到了这句话, 我的心突然一沉, 像打翻了五味瓶, 什么滋味都有.
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R~b9) 古人如此, 今人又何尝不是这样? 漫漫红尘, 两个人在茫茫人海中走到一起是非常不易的. 那是一种浪漫, 一种美丽和一种幸福. 所以彼此都必须珍惜对方, 体谅对方, 关爱对方. 俗话说: 患难见真情. 然而在现实生活中, 很多时候我们的爱情并不像琼瑶小说中所描述的那样轰轰烈烈. 很多爱情, 本身就如细水长流, 偶尔惊起几朵浪花, 几处波澜. 现代很多人的爱情观都被小说和电视剧荼毒了, 总是期羡那些轰轰烈烈, 日日浪漫的爱情. 然而, 我们的结局却不像电视剧那样可以预料. 要是大风大浪后你将会和你爱的人各奔东西, 甚至生离死别, 你还会期许这样的爱情吗? 就算让你知道爱情会以大团圆结局, 你愿意承受中间颠沛流离, 担惊受怕的日子吗? 所以, 平平淡淡, 本身就是最大的福气. 好比我们回顾清照与明诚的爱情, 我们会觉得很动人美丽, 然而如果我们抚心自问, 在可以选择自己人生的情况下, 有谁会愿意选择清照的命运?
@1P1n8mH] 是的, 轰轰烈烈的爱情是需要代价的, 这种代价可能是你一生的幸福. 然而平淡的爱情不代表是枯燥的爱情.常听别人说, 婚姻是爱情的坟墓. 甚至我曾经听过一个朋友讲, 恋爱后期变成了一种折磨. 很多人都觉得, 恋爱的初期是很浪漫醉人的,
jordans for sale, 然而到了后面, 就越来越失去那种浪漫的感觉, 结婚以后夫妻双方各自为生计忙碌, 更无浪漫可言. 很多男人整天只顾着在外面工作和应酬, 没有太多时间陪家人. 其实, 在我看来, 这只是一个借口. 浪漫并不需要你花很多时间在家人身上, 浪漫更不需要你花很多钱买钻戒宝石. 浪漫只需要闲时的一次携手散步,
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:EyH'v 爱情有时很奇怪. 当你爱一个人时, 你可以为了他/她付出一切而无怨无悔. 哪怕你再自私, 你也不会对你爱的人自私. 然而当你不爱一个人时, 哪怕他/她对你无限地付出, 甚至为你付出生命, 你也很难爱上他/她. 你对他/她只有感激, 而没有爱意. 你喜欢一个人, 并不代表你爱那个人. 如果不爱那个人, 却因为他对你有恩而勉强和他在一起, 最后只会两个人都痛苦. 所以当你发现别人爱你而你不爱他时, 不要因为他曾经帮助过你很多而不敢对他说明一切, 不要怕伤害到他. 你应该及时告诉他你的真实感受, 只有这样才可以将彼此的伤害减到最低. 相反, 拖拖拉拉只会让问题变得更加复杂! 爱一个人没有错, 不爱一个人也没有错.上天没有指定我们必须要爱哪个人, 不能爱哪个人. 我们的意愿没有对与错之分, 但是我们的行为却有对错.不会处理爱情关系的人, 最后只会让彼此痛苦, 形同陌路. 在爱情面前, 执着与忠诚固然重要, 但是个人的情绪处理与控制能力更加重要! 不要吵了一次架就觉得那是世界末日, 不要闹了一次矛盾就觉得那是人生的尽头, 不要对方做错了一件事就把他的以前的功劳完全抹杀. 相处比较久的情侣们都应该有一种直觉, 这种直觉可以根本判断出你的爱人是否真的爱你. 而如果你觉得他是真正的爱你, 那么你就要信任他, 支持他, 鼓励他, 而不要随随便便地怀疑你在他心中的地位.只有这样的爱情最终才会开花结果. 否则就算两人结了婚, 也会以离婚收场.
k=Ef)' 看着这封短短的邮件,我想起了很多,也思考了很多. 终于, 我回复了这个陌生人: 爱情可以为之付出, 但是绝不可以勉强;真正爱一个人是希望她可以快乐,既然她找到了自己爱的人,
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e%G- +6 Reflection on International Business Management Learning
mU_?}}aK, During this semester, I have gradually gone through a series of important moments when I changed my strategies and methods of studying and learned to perform better in the IBM module.
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<E@ 7CG.= “After the first lecture, I came to realize that studying mode is no longer the same as before. There will not be final exam at the end of the term, but I will be required to accomplish an array of assignments that are designed to practice and evaluate my writing skills,
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p"H8;fPA0 After attending the first session, I knew what I was supposed to do to fulfill my study of this module. However, I still felt some confusion about the specific requirements for each assignment the lecturer presented us. Therefore, I met some difficulties in the week following:
w0SzK-& “Today I attended the second session of this semester, but I felt very upset. At the beginning of the class, the lecturer had a heated discussion with us about the journal articles. She proposed a lot of questions like “What is the purpose of each article?” “What are the strengths and weaknesses of each contribution?” “What new learning occurred?” etc. All these questions had not been reflected on by me when I read the articles. So I could not come up with satisfactory answers. I came to realize that reading the articles is just the basic step before learning the real things. And since this session, I know what I am supposed to do in order to truly learn something out of the journal articles.”
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}U'5j/EFZ Since then, I would review the slides given by the lecturer before taking classes the next day. I would focus on the questions listed in the slides regarding the journal articles as well as the chapter in our textbook and try to figure out the answers by myself. In class, I would listen to the teacher’s and my classmates’ ideas carefully and compared them with mine to see potential improvement. I would take notes of the useful points to me and further reflected on them by myself after class.
e%bER ds 3) Changed Expectation of Learning Outcomes
ErESk"2t By week three, though I knew I had gradually adapted myself to the way of teaching, I still felt kind of puzzled at what I had learnt. In the past of my undergraduate study in China, teachers seemed to pump everything into your head. They would throw light on every point in the textbook in detail and what you were required to do was to understand and memorize all the content in class. But now, I came to the realization that:
lha )' v/+ dx/ “Learning outcomes should not be simply confined to concept or theory memorizing. It should be broader and deeper than that, including a deeper understanding of each concept and theory and the ability to relate theories to practical IB issues. IB students are also supposed to effectively tackle real problems encountered in international business with strong theoretical rationale and great flexibility. Therefore, case study becomes extraordinary significant in cultivating this capability.”
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qoZ* sV 1) Be Reflective Instead of Descriptive
oTI*mGR1Z By week five, I would need to start writing my first journal article review which was designed to develop my ability to write a concise critique of any article. This was my first time to write journal article review, and after receiving the feedbacks from the teacher, I was enlightened about what is a “true” article review:
5.?O PK6 “After receiving the feedbacks from Anne about my first journal article review,
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!-.-!hBN In week 9, our group must hold a seminar in class and do a presentation that involved all the group members. We had met four times and discussed the case before the presentation. After the presentation, when I am looking back the whole process, I have significantly changed my perception of group work as illustrated in my diary entry:
a|nlmH"l “Previously, I was inclined to individual work that could render me ample flexibility. More importantly, I could spare the argument with others and work on my own, which was considered by me to be more efficient. However, after this seminar, my perception of group work changed dramatically! During the group discussion, I accumulated many innovative ideas and viewpoints that had never come to my mind before. Also, my teammates gave me a wealth of suggestions on my part, which had tremendously enriched and spiced the content of my presentation. To my greater pleasure,
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=oQzL Learning Journal Diary 09/11/2010
cJA :vHyw Above is my learning development during the whole semester on IBM study. With time passing by, my learning skills and methods have been furthered gradually. It will benefit my whole-life learning in the future.
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